My spouce and I
not too long ago had gotten married
. He had been a virgin
at the time and that I
am baffled
of the proven fact that the guy does not ejaculate or orgasm
. He assures me that he wants all of our time with each other but
I worry he may have some underlying concern which he need to have checked out.
The sex is actually amazing in my situation as I have several sexual climaxes
but
we would like to have young ones and I am afraid
that will not take place quickly.
There are ways to conceive without sexual intercourse and orgasm. However in regards to his intimate health, it would be important to determine if he’s actually ever ejaculated (possibly while sleeping?) or had an orgasm. If you don’t, he should certainly have a checkup. However men and women â as an example, those that grew up in families in which there was clearly a very punitive mindset towards building sex â you should never normally glean knowledge of their intimate selves, or learn how their particular genitals work through self-exploration and masturbation. Such people normally have to learn about their particular intimate replies as adults, and having intercourse with an adult lover could be difficult. Attempt to begin a really mild, non-threatening talk with him that may start: ”i truly love having sex with you, it looks somewhat one-sided thus I was interested in learning what exactly offers you pleasure?” You could collectively find the answer.
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